Desire

My soul, stay still and listen. 

Whatever you desire in life,

is available in Christ Jesus. 

Rely on Him only for all good things.


Never desire what will destroy you.

It looks attractive, but watch out,

that you do not fall prey to it,

or be controlled by it.


My soul, desire the things of God.

Focus on heavenly investments, 

which yield eternal dividends,

and everlasting rewards. 


I desire peace, love and unity. 

May the world know this peace,

which transcends human understanding. 

We were made for love, spread it.


Lord, You are My Desire.

When will you return in glory?

To take your bride with you.

I am your own, till the day you return.


Creating a conducive home with the help of the Holy Spirit.

For your marriage to thrive, you need a conducive home. A place filled with God’s presence and love. Our homes should be that place of succour where our spouses look forward to returning to after the day’s hassle. 

Naturally we all desire a peaceful and loving home, but hard as we try, we still notice a bit of disharmony. Sometimes, after exacting energy and time to create a warm ambience at home, all you receive is ingratitude. Your spouse seems not to notice all you’ve done or intentionally decides to ignore it. At times, he or she may still find something to criticise despite the commendable job done. All these are targeted at provoking or discouraging you. In the previous chapter we discussed how doing good to your spouse can help you save your marriage. So, if you have decided to apply that step, then be ready to ignore any form of ingratitude from your spouse. Don’t do anything expecting a “thank you” or “well done”, do it because Jesus did it too and he has commanded us to imitate His ways. While Jesus hung on the cross bleeding for sins which He never committed, He was offered vinegar to drink and made mockery of. He was not appreciated for that huge sacrifice done to save humanity. 

We have been called to obey God and choose His ways at all times, though the road be rough and bumpy, we are to hold fast to what we profess as Christians. We are called Christians because we emulate Christ. How many of us are truly living that Christ-like life in our homes? Can we go the extra mile for our spouses? Can we be spat upon without retaliating? Can we bear shame and humiliation that the name of Jesus be glorified? When your spouse speaks unkind and belittling words to you, how do you react? Indeed it is a hard thing to follow Jesus, but His grace is sufficient for those who are willing. 

To create a conducive home, you must die to self. It’s no longer about you, but Christ. Be ready to forgive even when no apology has been tendered. Focus more on pleasing God with your conduct and let God handle the rest for you. Proverbs 16:7 says “When a man’s ways please the LORD, He makes even his enemies to be at peace with him”. No, your spouse is not your enemy but the devil, so if God can make your enemies to be at peace with you, how much more your spouse? God can fix that too. So your primary responsibility is to please God, and do His will. 

We all need the help of the Holy Spirit to succeed in our marriages. He is called our helper because “He will teach you all things and bring to your remembrance all that I have said to you” (John 14: 26). 

The Holy Spirit is also known as the Advocate, to help you make good decisions. He dwells in you and empowers you to do what ordinarily you wouldn’t be able to. 

To further understand how to run your home peacefully, you will need divine wisdom and inspiration and the Holy Spirit is here to help you out in that area too as it’s written in  1 Corinthians 2:10-11 “These are the things God has revealed to us by his Spirit. The Spirit searches all things, even the deep things of God. For who knows a person’s thoughts except for their own spirit within them? In the same way, no one knows the thoughts of God except the Spirit of God”. Do you want to know God’s thoughts towards you, your spouse or your marriage? Then, daily pray for a fresh infilling of the Holy Spirit in your life. He will illuminate your path and grant you divine wisdom and understanding

You never let me walk alone.

You've always been there for me.

You never let me walk alone.

Your promises keep me going.

You are Faithful and True. 


Emmanuel, God is with us.

Ever present, ever loving. 

Your presence makes the difference. 

Your countenance shine bright on us.


From everlasting to everlasting, 

You remain the same, ever faithful and true.

Joy comes in the morning, and 

everything is made new in Christ Jesus. 


I am not ashamed to call you Lord.

You hold the key to life.

Yours I am and yours I want to be.

Keep me in your righteousness. 


You will always be my King.

Ruling over the affairs of my life. 

My life is made beautiful because of you.

You complete me. 

Steps to take to save your marriage.

Our society can be a better place if we take necessary steps to ensure that marriages and homes are built on the right foundations and principles. The society is formed as a result of a man and woman coming together in marriage and this births a family. 

A faulty marriage will birth a faulty family. Children who grow up in turbulent homes are most likely to become a concern to the society. So it’s of paramount importance that we dedicate time and energy to ensure that our marriages are kept intact, safe from vices and destructive influences. 

In this chapter, we will talk about those steps which we can apply to keep our marriages and homes safe.

  1. Prayer: no matter how we try to shy away from this, prayer still remains the number one key to a successful marriage. Keeping your marriage safe requires seriousness in your prayer life. Jesus Christ is the same, yesterday, today and forever. He is our role model. He lived a successful life here on earth and we all know Him as a prayerful person. The Son of God prayed while here on earth, and He prayed real hard. It is no small feat to pray till your sweat drops like blood to the ground, but this is what happened to Jesus in the garden of Gethsemane before his crucifixion. 

Jesus has not called us to pray till our sweat turns into blood, He only asked us to pray without ceasing. Why do we need to pray without ceasing? It’s because the world is full of evil and any true Christian is in constant battle with the enemy, the devil, whether you are aware of it or not. The bible records that the devil is out there to steal, kill and destroy. Marriage is a key component in the society, if we get it wrong there, then the world at large is in trouble. So it’s not  a surprise that most marriages are facing attacks from the pit of hell, this is to ensure godly seeds are not raised who will eventually take over the society for Christ.

So when you face problems in your marriage, your first port of call is your Heavenly Father and you can’t reach Him except through prayers. God is your father, He is not there to condemn you, even if you are the originator of the problem in your marriage.  Rather He is there to help you and give you joy in abundance. Pour out everything to Him and sit still, do not fret. God created the whole world and everything in it, your spouse inclusive. There is nothing God can not do and there is no situation beyond repairs when God is involved. 

  1. Seek godly counsel: God has made available people whom He has gifted the ability to discern and counsel marital issues biblically. You can find them in the church or the secular circle. Don’t just walk through any door in search of counselling. Some are out there to feed you worldly views and solutions to marital problems. That is why you need to pray before you step out to seek counselling. 

It is advisable that both parties attend the counselling sessions, as this will enable them to air their differences, thus granting more illumination into the situation to further help the Counsellor take necessary steps in resolving the problem. 

In some cases, the healing process may even begin on the first day of the counselling sessions, because there is a tendency for each party to air their grievances to the Counsellor more than they would to their spouses. Some spouses have locked up their emotions and have become embittered towards each other due to inability to communicate their hurts to their partners. Some have tried proffering solutions in the past, only to be ignored or shut out. So the counselling session now provides the long awaited opportunity to voice out their pains. It is important for each couple to listen with an unbiased mind to what their partner is saying because they may actually begin to see where they went wrong in the first place. Going there with the mindset of getting a solution to their present problem is key to benefiting from the counselling, rather than attending the sessions just to prove who is right or wrong. That is why you must carry God along in this too. That you are seeking godly counselling doesn’t mean God should take the back seat. Get Him involved right from the beginning. Ask Him to speak to your spouse and prepare him or her,  before you go ahead to invite them for counselling. Also ask God to prepare your mind and that of your spouse and make it a fertile ground where the godly counsel may grow and bear fruits in your lives. 

C. Forgive your spouse: there is no sin in the bible where God has asked not to forgive. Even Jesus forgave the adulterous woman who was caught in the act. Forgiving your spouse is beneficial to you too, beecause it helps you heal faster. 

Dont wait for your spouse to come and apologise before you forgive, because we do not know when God will finish His work on him or her. Simply make up your mind to let go and forgive. See it as a divine instruction from God.  Jesus said we should forgive those who offend us

 70 x 7 times, to me this simply means no matter how many times someone offends you, keep forgiving. There is no limitation to forgiveness. “But if you refuse to forgive others, your Father will not forgive your sins.” (Matthew 6:15 NLT).

The above Bible verse is very clear on God’s stand with regards to forgiveness. Every true believer must understand that there is no room for grudges in our hearts.  Unforgiveness disconnects us from God. It hinders the free flow of God’s Spirit in our lives. Making heaven is sticking to God’s commands, and forgiveness is one of them. As Christians, heaven is our final destination, but we can only be granted access if we learn to forgive one another and adhere to God’s instructions. Don’t wait till the pain is gone before you forgive. Make up your mind to forgive and ask God to give you the grace to do so, then trust God to take care of  the rest.

d. Keep doing good: we are told in the bible to love our enemies, but in this case your spouse isn’t the enemy, rather the devil is. Keep loving your spouse no matter what. Don’t let hate and bitterness entangle you, set your mind free and focus on the word of God. We can not trust our emotions at times like this because it’s bent on satisfying the flesh. We are not called to satisfy our flesh but to obey God and choose His ways at all times, even when we are not comfortable with it. The flesh is constantly at war with the spirit, that’s why we sometimes find it difficult to yield to God’s ways and we know God’s way is always the best. 

Keep doing good to your spouse, even if there is no show of gratitude from him or her. Your Heavenly Father who sees what you do in the secret, will reward you openly. Don’t pay back evil with evil, nothing good will come out of it. Pay back evil with good and leave the rest to God. 

When you are tempted to give up on your good deeds, remember Jesus. He died for us even while we were still sinners. Our sins couldn’t stop Him from doing the good His Father asked him to. Anywhere Jesus went, He kept doing good, nothing in our sinful nature could hinder Jesus from doing what is right. The same should be applicable to all Christians. Keep doing good, no matter the situation you find yourself in. 

 e. Dwell in God’s presence daily: dwelling in God’s presence doesn’t mean staying in church. We all know God dwells within us in the person of the Holy Spirit, working out God’s eternal purpose in our lives.  Daily dwelling in God’s presence implies consciously conceding your right to live the way it pleases you. You wake each day fully aware that you are stepping out to do God’s purpose and not yours. Sitting down daily at His feet to find out what he desires for you to do is practicing how to dwell in God’s presence. Every Christian whether married or not needs to come to this understanding and implement it in their lives. This is the only way we can live a purpose driven life. 

Many couples are experiencing marital problems because, even before marriage they had no idea what it meant to daily dwell in God’s presence. They lived life as it pleased them and accepted whatever or whoever came their way. No conscious effort was made to know God’s will concerning their life partners. Some already had the type or spec of whom they will end up with in marriage, so anything short of that loses its appeal to them. In their decision making, they forgot what Isaiah 55:8 says “For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways,” declares the LORD. 

Now, how will dwelling in God’s presence help you save your marriage? God can do alot in your life, not only in your marriage when you learn how to dwell in His presence. As earlier said, it is a conscious effort on your part to daily practice this by granting God access into every area of your life and allowing Him to take charge and be the decision maker. 

Create out time to spend with God, make it a specific time and try to keep to it. Tell God the time you have chosen and make it a covenant with Him that you will always be there at that particular time. Call it a covenant time. During your covenant time, take a journal with you to write down what God lays in your heart. Also go along with your bible  and a Christian spirit uplifting book, spend a minimum of 30 minutes there with God, you may decide to make it longer. Don’t be in a hurry to leave His presence, allow His glory and presence come upon you. You may not see what is transpiring as you sit there in fellowship with God, but if it pleases the Lord He may choose to reveal this to you at His own time. Keep doing this daily and take note of your dreams too. I love doing mine in the night so I can sleep after and expect the Lord to speak. God is still speaking to us through various ways, and one of it is dreams. 

It’s essential to learn how to hear from God, because He desires to comfort you, lead you and direct you. 

Some solutions to life problems may be revealed to you through dreams, so please ask God to grant you divine revelations. He says Jeremiah 33.3 “Call to Me, and I will answer you, and show you great and mighty things, which you do not know.”

Aside from keeping your covenant time with God, live each day intentionally. Decide to please God in your ways by letting Him lead you. Ask Him questions before you embark on anything. Make Him know that His opinion counts and He is important in your life. Learn to talk to God as the day goes by, because He is right there with you though you can’t see Him with your physical eyes. When you engage God in this manner, you are daily dwelling in His presence. You are living each day for Him and not for yourself, making Him the Head over your life, marriage, career, etc. 

When you dwell in His presence, His nature rubs off on you and you see yourself effortlessly desiring to live a holy life, wanting more of Him and craving for your covenant time to approach so you could crawl back into His arms and be comforted. This is called intimacy with God. You are gradually being infused into Him.

When you become one with God, you no longer desire your will. You now live daily for Him. You emulate Jesus easily and this is when you can effortlessly resolve conflict in your home because it’s no longer important to you who is right, or who is wrong. You are more concerned in bringing Jesus into your marriage to reign. You now live a selfless life, putting others before you. Forgiving your spouse anytime he or she errs is no longer an ordeal because you’ve tasted the Father’s love and come to the realisation that love is the ultimate healing balm. When you love your enemies as the bible instructs us to, you no longer harbour hatred towards them but compassion and love. You are now more concerned about their spiritual welfare and upliftment. You care more for them now and pray often for them. You no longer see them as your enemies but the devil who is working evil through them. 

If you apply this principle of loving your enemies in your dealings with your spouse, you will find it easy to live a peaceful life with them. You will always remember that Jesus loved us even while we were still sinners and He has called us to do same. 

Spiritual Power and Authority (SPA)

Most people love to be in the position of power or authority, so as to enforce their will on others. This is rather sad, and it applies to both Christians and non Christians. 

In this write up, I will be focusing on Christians and how we can live above satanic oppression by exercising our spiritual power and authority. 

In the physical realm, a lot of people are being oppressed either by those in authority or even by their associates. In the spiritual realm, the same is applicable. There is always a tussle for power, to control and to dominate. As Christians, we should realise that we are the bearers of light and truth and the kingdom of darkness will stop at nothing to ensure we don’t shine bright for the world to see and know this light, which is Jesus Christ, neither do they want the world to come to the knowledge of who Jesus really is. We, as Christians are here on earth to occupy and dominate till Christ returns, but how many Christians are truly in charge? 

Today, you find many Christians living in fear and not being able to exercise their spiritual power and authority over the enemy. Some know their rights as believers, but are too lazy to apply the necessary principles to overcome the oppressor. 

As a Christian, what do you understand as Spiritual Power and Authority?. When you become born again, God comes in and dwells within you in the person of the Holy Spirit , that means every born again Christian has God living inside them. The same power that raised Jesus from the dead, actually resides in you. Take a minute and ponder on that. You are actually housing the Almighty within you. Do you fully grasp the meaning and implication of this? No. That’s the problem with most Christians, they don’t get it or they feel it’s just too good to be true. Whatever may be their stand, this is actually the Truth. Your Spiritual Power and Authority lies in the fact that, it’s no longer you who lives but Christ.  When you accepted Jesus Christ as your personal Lord and Saviour, your old self died and you allowed Jesus to take over your life and live it for you. Jesus is now in charge of your life,  He is the source of your Spiritual Power and Authority. Living without Jesus is a risky lifestyle, so if you’ve not accepted Jesus Christ into your life, please take a moment and say this prayer ; LORD JESUS I ACCEPT YOU AS MY PERSONAL LORD AND SAVIOUR AND I NOW INVITE YOU INTO MY LIFE TO RULE AND DIRECT. PLEASE COME AND TAKE CHARGE OF MY LIFE IN JESUS NAME, AMEN. 

This simple prayer ushers you into the realm of power and you are now ready to live a life of dominion. Christianity is a life of rule and order, therefore be ready to live a disciplined life. Power has been given to you and for you to live a victorious life, you must be ready to obey God’s commands and stick to His path. I will state some of those rules or principles you should adhere to: 

  1. AVOID SIN. Sin kills and destroys. There is nothing good about it. It only offers temporal pleasure in exchange for a lasting damage. If you keep sinning intentionally, it’s impossible to exercise your spiritual power and authority over the enemy. 
  1. ABIDE IN GOD’S PRESENCE. God’s presence makes the difference in your life. The more you spend time with God, the more His glory rubs off on you. Just like Moses who spent time with God in the Mountain, the bible records that, his face shone and the Israelites couldn’t look at it because of it’s brightness. Moses had to put on a veil inorder to speak with the Israelites. 

When You make it a habit to spend quality time with God daily, you are soaking in His glory and His presence goes with you wherever you go making the crooked places straight. Moses said to God, if your presence won’t go with us, then we won’t move an inch. Why? He knew God’s presence made the enemies tremble and flee. Dwelling in God’s presence daily helps you stay in power and live above the enemy. I will give a few tips below on how to spend time with God. 

  1. Choose a time and call it your covenant time with God. It’s a covenant because you will make out time everyday at that particular time to be with God. Night time is preferably, so no one disturbs you. 
  2. During your covenant time, no calls or chats, just focus on God. Praise Him, worship Him and adore Him. This is not the time for making requests. It’s purely a time of intimacy with your Creator. Just let Him know how much you love and appreciate Him. 
  3. Go along with a journal for writing, God may lay some things in your heart while you are there with Him. Read your bible as well and ask the Holy Spirit to teach you all things and lead you into the truth. It’s  ok to also go along with some edifying Christian books to read. If you can make your covenant time an hour, that will be fine. It should be enough to allow you spend quality time with Him, without rushing. 
  4. You can find a more detailed guide on how to have your covenant time with God in my book; How to hear God for yourself

3. DISCOVER GOD’S PURPOSE FOR     YOUR LIFE AND PURSUE IT. 

An idle mind, they say it’s the devil’s workshop. Waking up each day and not knowing what to do with your life, is an open invitation to demonic oppression. God has a purpose for bringing you into this world. Discover that purpose and set about achieving it, of course through the help of the Holy Spirit. Secondly, pursuing just any purpose because you fancy it and not because that’s what God has revealed to you as His plans for your life, is still a disaster in the making. Therefore, seek God passionately until He leads or directs you into that beautiful path He has led out for you.

Once you discover God’s purpose for your life, you become more emboldened to overcome any setbacks or attacks from the pit of hell. 

4. STUDY THE WORD OF GOD. 

Living in ignorance of who you really are in Christ Jesus, gives the oppressor easy access to assault your life whenever and however he deems fit. You should know your right as a Christian, so no one pushes you around. Studying the word of God is key to discovering your true identity and the power that has been bestowed on you. 

You may find it boring to pick up your bible and read, but remember the devil is happy when you don’t, because your ignorance gives him the desired cover to keep wreaking havoc in your life. So next time you feel lazy about studying God’s word, remember what you stand to loose by living a life of ignorance. 

5. LIVE A LIFE OF PRAISE AND WORSHIP.

“GOD inhabits the praises of His people” (Psalm 22:3). When you engage in praise and worship, you usher in God’s presence into your life and your place of abode. Satan cannot stand God’s presence, He will always flee. Many burdens are lifted when we focus on God and worship Him, because He empowers us the more and renews our strength like that of the eagles, 

Isaiah 40:31 – “But those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint”.

Praising God in times of trials is a difficult task, but that is when true worship takes place. If you worship God only when life is rosy, then you are yet to experience what true worship is all about. Praise and worship offered to God in times or tribulations exudes sweet fragrance unto God. 

6. HAVE THE MINDSET OF A KING’S SON OR DAUGHTER. 

It’s not easy to bully or oppress the child of a King. They know their rights and usually operate from a level of power and authority. They never desire to come down to the level of mediocrity. 

We Christians are Sons and Daughters of the King of kings and the Lord of lords. When will we adapt this mindset and live it? The bible says that the world is waiting for the manifestations of the Sons of God. It’s about time, Christians change their mindsets and start living the life of spiritual power and authority. It all starts with the mind. If you can believe it, then you can live it. Enough of this bullying and oppression from satanic powers.

In conclusion, I enjoin all Christians to rise up and reject anything hurled at them that does not align with God’s purpose for their lives. Daily exercise your spiritual power and authority and refuse to back down when confronted by demonic powers. Remember, the same power that raised Jesus from the dead, lives in you. 

Your marriage is workable, don’t give up.

Sometimes God permits certain unpleasant things to happen in our lives, to help mold us into who He wants us to be. It is not God's will that you should have a turbulent marriage but if you happen to find yourself in one, believe that what was meant to break you will eventually be used by God to strengthen you. 

God may choose to use that problem in your life to draw you closer to Him. Some Christians dont seek God until there is an issue that requires divine intervention, then will they remember to call on God. This is not how God wants to relate with us. We must always be available for Him. We shouldn't see Him only as our problem fixer, it's quite unfair to treat God that way. When God tries to reach out to you but you seem too busy for Him, then a time will come when you will be the one chasing Him to come to fix your life.


Why must we wait until there is a problem in our lives before we seek God? Isn't that a self centred relationship? If your spouse were to treat you in this same manner, would you feel loved and appreciated? Why not love God with all your being and watch Him work things out for you? Make God your priority, create time for Him, seek His presence and dwell there, learn to communicate with Him, foster the habit of involving Him in all your decision making and learn how to cast your burden on Him. 


I strongly believe that any faulty marriage can be fixed, if you allow God to be at the centre of it. The bible tells us that God hates divorce, therefore whenever there is a challenge, don't contemplate divorce, rather call unto God to intervene. We can not place enough emphasis on the importance of prayer in a believer's life. Prayer is the way to communicate with God and invite Him into issues of our lives. When you commit everything into God's hands, by praying, God will always come through and He is never too late. While you wait on God to work out your marriage, stay calm and keep loving your spouse. Don't stop being nice and caring because you feel your spouse doesn't deserve it, no, the bible says love your enemies. Do not pay back evil for evil, no good can ever come out of that. 



If you are married to an abusive partner, it's advisable to separate for a while and keep interceding for him or her from a safe place. God may choose to use your prayers and bring Him or her to Christ. Some are married to men and women who claim to be born  again Christians, yet the fruits of the spirit are not evident in them. They still beat their spouses, inflict emotional and psychological trauma on them, yell and threaten them at the slightest provocation. Such, are not true Christians, please stay far away from them until God has perfected His work in their lives. Being separated from them, pending when God will work things out, doesn't mean you are divorced. You are still married and must remain faithful to your spouse. This is not the time to cheat on your spouse but rather a time to pray and seek the face of God concerning your home. It is possible for an abusive partner to genuinely repent and become a new person in Christ Jesus. You can not bring that divine change upon your spouse, only God can. Many people believe they can make their spouses a better person by constantly correcting them or pointing out their errors to them, unfortunately this will not help. It will only earn you the tag of a nag. If you purchase a Toyota car and it develops a fault, the best thing to do is take it to a Toyota workshop and get it fixed. If you try to fix that car on your own, you may likely leave it in a worse condition than it was before. Your spouse is the car and God is the workshop, let Him do the fixing. Your job is to report the problem to Him. He created your spouse, therefore He knows every component in him or her.

SPIRITUAL BATTLES YOU SHOULD NOT FIGHT AS A CHRISTIAN

What are spiritual battles?



Most of us are familiar with the term "spiritual battles" ,so I won't spend much of our time defining this. I would rather throw more light on it from my own perspective. 


Spiritual battle is usually referred to someone engaging in warfares, confrontations, fights, struggles, etc against powers and forces of darkness by prayer and fasting, inorder to overcome hindrances and oppositions and live a victorious life. 


Having said that, let's ask ourselves this question; are spiritual battles real? 

Yes, they are real. Spiritual battles exist and alot of Christians spend a good amount of time, some even spend their entire lives fighting battles and that brings me to the purpose of writing this book. 

Another question we should examine is; what does the bible say about engaging in spiritual battles or warfare? 


Ephesians 6:12 (KJV)

For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places. 


This passage makes it very clear that indeed spiritual battles exist and as Christians, we are continually encountering such battles as we journey through life. Jesus, who is our Lord and saviour fought battles while here on earth and one of such is where He was led into the wilderness to be tempted of the devil. Jesus fought this battle and overcame by standing in His place of authority and using the word of God. He knew who He was and had no time to engage in unnecessary discussion with the devil. For each attack, He used the word of God to triumph. 

Unlike Eve in the bible,when tempted forgot she was placed in a higher authority than the devil and should not have given room for unnecessary discussions. All she needed to do was to put an abrupt end to the devil's gimmicks by simply answering God said DO NOT EAT THIS FRUIT, PERIOD. Am not interested why I shouldn't eat, all that matters here is GOD SAID!


Unfortunately some Christians today are still behaving like Eve. They rely so much on lengthy prayers and fasting, rather than stand in their place of authority as believers and use the word of God just as Jesus did. 

As a Christian, your place of authority is in Christ, meaning it's no longer you fighting these battles but Christ, because He had already conquered the devil and his cohorts thousands of year ago and that victory was credited to you and I. So, when dealing with the devil, do it from that standpoint of victory, don't negotiate or beg. Your place of authority in Christ, makes you operate from a higher level than the enemy.  Remember Ephesians 2:6 (KJV), it says : 


"And hath raised us up together, and made us sit together in heavenly places in Christ Jesus".


So what are those battles Christians should not fight? 


1. Territorial Battles. 


Territorial battles are those battles Christians engage in to secure or claim possession of their environment or territory. 

This is one of those battles I would encourage Christians not to engage in based on the following scripture:


Psalm 24:1-  The earth is the LORD's, and the fulness thereof; the world, and they that dwell therein.


The whole World and all that you find inside belongs to God.  As a child of God, your portion has been allocated to you,  so there is no need to drag possession of your environment with the devil. Locate it, dwell there and take charge. The problem with many Christians is that they go to where God has not assigned to them and want to forcefully posses it. They say the violent taketh it by force. Yes, I totally agree with you, but please discover God's purpose for your life and stay in that plan. Is it God's will for you to dwell in that particular place? Did He ask you to go and take it by force? If you cannot answer these questions with a simple yes or no, then you are already starting or engaging in a battle you should not. 


2. Battles against witches and wizards.


Many Christians have taken it upon themselves to kill all the witches and wizards in their father's compound through prayers. Some have been praying these prayers or fighting this battle for years, yet those witches and wizards are still alive. Some may have died, but has your situation changed since their death? God has not assigned that battle to you. He is still in the business of fighting your battles, while you hold your peace. 

Your primary concern as a Christian, is to be in the right standing with God. When you focus your time and energy in doing that which pleases the Lord, then He Himself will take up your battles of witches and wizards and fight for you. 

What are does things that please the Lord? 

Know who you are in the Lord and discover God's purpose for your life.

Pursue that purpose and fulfil it. 

Hear what God is saying concerning your life and adhere to it. 

Stay away from sin and the things that lure you into it. 

Consecrate yourself to the Lord. 


Christians should learn to discover their purposes here on earth in time. The earlier you know who you are and your God given assignment, the less likely you will engage in battles the Lord has not asked you to. The major reason why Christians are fighting battles they should not is because they have identity crises. God called you to be Teacher, but you said no, doctor it is for me. When issues arise, please who will fight for you? It is true that even in your God chosen career you may experience some hindrances but because you obeyed God and followed the path He chose, a simple prayer from you is enough to solve such problems. 


1 John 3:22 says, “And we will receive from him whatever we ask because we obey and do the things that please him.”



3. Marital Battles.


Today, we have many failed marriages and dysfunctional families, and sadly the numbers are increasing by the day. People don't believe they should spend time and seek God's face concerning who to marry. They believe physical attraction and chemistry is all they need in a man or woman to decide whether to go into marriage with the person or not. Choosing your marriage partner goes beyond the physical, it's a spiritual matter that needs to be handled with utmost care and seriousness. Otherwise, one will spend the major part of their married life fighting battles. Once you get it wrong with the choice of a partner, then be rest assured that marriage will birth many avoidable battles. Also, note that getting married to an unbeliever is a recipe for marital turbulence, because the believer has light in him or her while that unbeliever is engulfed in darkness. These two do not mix. 


When choosing a marriage partner, let God lead not your flesh or family influence. Many are getting married today for selfish ambitions. Some for political influence, some for wealth and good life, some for fame, etc. Only a few are settling down in marriage, in accordance with God's purpose and plans for their lives. If you obey God and follow His choice for your marriage, you are laying the right foundation for your home. Whenever there are issues in your marriage, you know who to call on, God. He will always answer because He orchestrated that marriage and will not forsake you. 


4. Battles against suffering and hardship.


No one wants to suffer in life, we all came to enjoy this life and enjoy it to the fullest. True. Hold on a bit, and ask yourself this question, how was the life of Jesus while on earth? Was it all rosy? No. In our Christian race, Jesus never promised us a hassle free life. There will be moments of joy, laughter, wealth, etc and there will also be moments of sorrow, hardship and suffering, etc. You can't shy away from this truth. The book of Romans 8:17-18 (NIV) says :


"Now if we are children, then we are heirs—heirs of God and co-heirs with Christ, if indeed we share in his sufferings in order that we may also share in his glory. I consider that our present sufferings are not worth comparing with the glory that will be revealed in us".


For every Christian, there is a phase for trials and tribulations. It's only a phase, it won't last forever, so don't start binding and casting, only pray for grace to sail through victoriously. This is the moment to tell Jesus, I love you,despite what I am passing through. Some people love Jesus only for the blessings they can receive from Him. In times of difficulties, they no longer want to be identified with Him. 


The important thing to note here is, do you know what phase you are right now in your life? Is this your moment of trials? Is this the time to endure and suffer with Jesus, so you can also share in His glory? If yes, then relax and pray for grace so you can pass this test of faith gallantly. There is no need to engage in any spiritual  battles, just trust God to usher you into your glory at the appointed time. Jeremiah 29: 11 (KJV) says: 


“For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, saith the LORD, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you an expected end.”


5. Battles against satanic strongholds. 


A stronghold is a building or other structure that is safe from attack. A fortress is a perfect example of a stronghold.


Demonic powers can also form a stronghold using your thoughts, beliefs and imaginations. They hide behind these thoughts of yours to wage war against you.  Before you engage in any spiritual battles against satanic strongholds, search your heart first and evaluate your thought pattern concerning your life. Some people have barricaded themselves with so many erroneous beliefs and thoughts that are contrary to God's words concerning their lives, as Christians. 


Alot of people attribute every negative occurrence in their lives to satan. Even when it's plainly a case of inaptitude, negligence, lack of seriousness, etc. You blame the devil for failing your exams, when you spent the whole time praying instead of reading. Please strike a balance. Pray but at the same time dedicate enough time for reading as well. Don't give glory to satan over what he never caused, and by so doing, you are unconsciously forming a stronghold for satan and his cohorts to continually bombard your exams with attacks. 

Stop focusing on the devil when you encounter problems in life, rather let Jesus be your focal point. The more you attribute your problems to the devil, the more power you relinquish to him. You simply acknowledge him as master over your life rather than Jesus. 


To pull down satanic strongholds in your life, you require a change of thought patterns not spiritual battles and warfares. Feed on the word of God and believe what it says, not what your mind or the circumstances surrounding you are projecting. Take charge of your thoughts as written in 2 Corinthians 10:5 (NIV); 



"We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ".



Learn to talk to God as your friend and father, discuss with Him on a daily basis and build a lasting relationship with Him. Have that confidence that He is always there for you and ever willing to pull you out of that situation, if only you will start focusing and believing in Him. Learn how to hear from Him so He can direct your path. 


God has a solution to every faulty marriage, and it’s not divorce. 

Why did God institute marriage? God instituted marriage in order to raise godly seeds for Himself. Companionship is also one of the vital reasons God instituted marriage, so that man will not be alone. Loneliness is never a fun place to be, you will agree with me. So God who is all knowing purposed marriage to fill up these gaps in our lives. 

God instituted marriage to bring joy into our lives, not sorrow. It is a perfect gift from God.

If there is any problem in your marriage,  God is not responsible, for His thoughts towards you are thoughts of good not of evil. And if God is not responsible for the challenges you are facing in your marriage, then this is good news. Why is it good news? I call it good news because if God were responsible for the problems in your marriage, then who will you turn to for solutions? If God is truly your father, then you are already halfway in succeeding in that marriage. I said half way because, it is one thing to have God as your father and it's entirely a different thing to recognise Him as such. It's like having a problem with your car and the tool box is in the trunk of the car but you have no idea what each tool is meant for or how it's operated. So yes, you have the solution to the problem of that car, right in front of you but yet the problem still can't be fixed. The same is applicable to those who call God their father but do not recognise Him as such. 

 So the question in your mind now is, how do you recognise God as your father? Brilliant question! You recognise God has your father by allowing Him play that role in your life. What are the roles of a father? It is the Father's job to ensure your safety, provide your needs, discipline you, comfort you and make you feel loved, etc. So now that we have mentioned a few roles of the father, how many of these roles is God actually playing in your life? Do you carry all the burden on your shoulders forgetting that it isn't your job? The burden belongs to God. 

A lot of people do not recognise God as their father because they don't trust Him enough to handle their problems. They believe He is up there and can't get involved with matters down here. That's not true. God created the heavens and the earth and everything in it. Nothing happens here on earth without God's knowledge. Even before you started having problems in your marriage, He saw it coming but couldn't forewarn you because you dont have a relationship with Him and hence cannot recognise His voice when He speaks. 

It is essential that every Christian hears from God and also knows the means through which God speaks to them, (I have written an ebook on that titled "HOW TO HEAR GOD FOR YOURSELF"). Possessing this ability helps us steer clear of problems or shows us the solution to problems. Many will not be facing the unpleasant situation in their marriages today, if they had heard God's warning against marrying the spouse they chose. 

That is why it's advisable to always allow God choose your marriage partner, and not we ourselves. You cannot see into the furture, neither do you know the real intent of the person you are marrying. Only God sees the heart of man. Unfortunately, some people get married just to achieve their selfish ambitions, therefore satisfying the other partner or making him or her happy is not their priority. Such marriage will definitely have issues. When God is the one choosing your partner, He knows who will complement you and help you fulfil your divine purpose here on earth. 

So what happens if you have already made the wrong decision in marriage? The bible says with God all things are possible. Secondly, Romans 8:28 says "And we know that God causes everything to work together for the good of those who love God and are called according to his purpose for them". So, it's possible for God to fix that faulty marriage and also use that ugly situation to bring good into your life.  That bible verse says this is achievable for those who love God and are called according to His purpose. So are you in agreement with God  concerning your life here on earth? Are you here to please God or yourself? Do you live each day of your life with heaven in mind? And of course the most important question, do you love God? These are  questions that require candid answers and sober reflection. If you are not living a purpose driven life according to God's plans for you, then make a conscious effort to start doing so now. 

Making a wrong decision in marriage isn't the end of the world. God can still fix it. Going for a divorce is not God's way, because He is a covenant keeper. You entered into a covenant with your spouse in the presence of God and you vowed till death do you part. That is a covenant, and God is involved. God is willing to fix that marriage if you will trust Him. He will make that  marriage bloom and become a success.

YOU ARE NOT A FAILURE

Sometimes things don't go the way we want. 

Sometimes it seems we will never get there.

We try so hard to get it right, yet keep failing. 

The problem isn't you.


In life, sometimes you blame yourself for not reaching your goal in time.

You believe you are slacking off, and need to try harder.

But the harder you try, the less satisfaction you derive.


Why is it so easy for some, and tedious for others?

I wish I knew the answers to these questions. 

But I take solace in one thing, I am not alone.

I stand on a Rock and Jesus is that rock.

He existed even before the creation of the Universe. 


When nothing makes sense, I remember Jesus.

When there seems to be no head way, I remember He is the way, the truth and life. 

When life seems unfair, I remember Jesus never had it so nice down here.


Don't compare your life with others.

We are all running a different race.

In times of failure, delay and difficulty, remember Jesus. He is always there.

Life may not be rosy but He will cushion it for you.