Should I be concerned about my child’s poor school grades?

You shouldn’t be concerned about your child’s grades, if your child is putting in his or her best in school and you’re also encouraging and praying for them. Every parent wants their children excelling in  school but do you realise that poor grades can’t stop a child from fulfilling his or her purpose here on earth? Poor grades can’t hinder God from doing what He has ordained for that child.

I am not here to encourage mediocrity or laziness but to assure you that God can’t be limited by poor grades. Your primary purpose as a parent is to lead that child in the way of the Lord and every other aspect shall be taken care of, including their grades.


I recall vividly during my university days, we had this super brilliant guy in my class. He was really good but unfortunately as at today he is still not doing well. He never had a good job and things weren’t going so well with him.
I also know of a mother, who’s little boy is very organised and coordinated, whereas the sister doesn’t really care where or how she places her things. She is always losing her things. Guess what? She happens to be the one always receiving awards in school! She even got award for best handwriting, although the brother writes better than her. So what do you call that? I call it grace.


Sometimes, God chooses the foolish things to draw our attention to Him. It’s not by power or might but by His Spirit. God can use those poor grades to do amazing things in that child’s life. Some parents have sleepless nights due to their children’s performances in school. This is so because most parents have already visualised what career path their children should follow, without first enquiring from the Lord what His plans are. Every child has a great destiny given to them by God. Trying to tamper with that destiny to suit your own plans is tantamount to sleepless nights. This is because you are going against God’s will for that child.

Think less about your child’s grades, think more about your child’s character and relationship with God. If you get it right here, then that child is already on the path to success, good grades or not.

What did you tell Jesus today?

Do you know there is someone beside you right there? You just turned around to check, right? Oh sorry I forgot to mention He is a Spirit, a very loving and tender hearted one. 

Jesus is always with you, every step of the way. You are so important to Him that He doesn’t want to lose sight of you. And guess what? He is ready to go the extra mile with you. Yes, He loves you that much.

So I’m wondering…. why don’t you talk to Him? Why don’t you invite Him into your life and make Him your trusted friend? There is only one man who can’t fail you, He is Jesus.

Trusted and Reliable. Yes, you are a sinner, a terrible one at that, no problem. You are exactly His spec. That’s why He came to the world in the first place. To draw you close to Him, purge you and make you whole again. Please don’t shy away, he is not going to judge you as the world does. He is kind, honest and sincere, and He knows exactly what you’ve been through. He is the only one who has answers to all your questions. 

Will you talk to Him today? Will you tell Him all your problems and concerns? 

Tell Him everything, pour out your heart to Him and let His loving arms rest on you. You are safe with Him, ALWAYS. 

If you’ve not accepted Jesus Christ into your life, please pray this prayer  below; 

LORD JESUS I ACCEPT YOU AS MY PERSONAL LORD AND SAVIOUR AND I NOW INVITE YOU INTO MY LIFE TO RULE AND DIRECT. PLEASE COME AND TAKE CHARGE OF MY LIFE IN JESUS NAME, AMEN. 

Where will I go without you?

I am not perfect, I have my flaws.

A human with weaknesses. 

I tend to judge myself too harshly.

I long to attain that height of perfection. 


Perfection is not what you desire. 

A contrite heart matters more.

A willing soul, ready to make amends, 

are more acceptable to you, than perfection. 


I am willing to be chastised and corrected. 

I will no longer feel superior to others.

Only please don't cast me away.

I have none besides thee.


In my anguish, I called upon you.

You heard my cry and had mercy on me.

You took me back into your arms,

and gave me another chance. 

He can never change.

The world keeps changing. 

Everyone is changing too.

This isn't strange, because

change is the only constant thing.(Heraclitus)


I have met a man who doesn't change. 

Everyone is talking about Him.

This is strange, because

we change as the days go by.


I'm curious, what's His secret?

Everyone wants to meet Him,

This isn't strange, because

No one lives forever, we must die someday.


I enquired about Him.

I sought-after Him, till I met Him.

I asked for His name, and He said;

I AM THAT I AM.


You are my standard.

Set the rules, and I will obey.

Give the instructions, I will comply.

Set the standard, I shall abide.

Jesus is my standard, I follow His ways.


What are your standards?

To whom do you yield daily to? 

To Christ or the standards of this world?

Jesus is the standard, follow His ways.


There are restrictions, yes.

You can't do as you please, true.

You are under authority, correct.

These are heavenly standards.


Not a fun place to be, they say.

I do not want to be controlled. 

I love my freedom!

Yes, gain all these and

lose your soul, the choice is yours. 

Prayers against having sex in the dream.

As Christians, having sex in the dream is bad. It is not God’s will for you, so don’t accept it as a normal thing. Many see it as fun and nothing serious attached to it. This is far from the truth. 

Having sex in the dream is a sure way of polluting your life both physical and spiritual. Some have woken up with severe pains in their breast because someone fondled it in the dream. Some have woken up with abdominal pains after sex in the dream and of course some woke up feeling excited and aroused with no physical consequences. In whichever category you may find yourself, the truth still remains that sex in the dream is bad and demonic. 

Do you know the powers behind sex in the dream? Yes, you guessed right. It’s satanic powers. God has nothing to do with it. There are some humans married spiritually and these beings come to sleep with them intermittently. Some don’t even know they’re married spiritually because their parents or fore parents worshipped idols and by extension their lineage has been dedicated to these idols. The spirits behind these idols come to sleep with their victims, sometimes as a renewal of covenants or just to cause havoc in their lives.

Have you noticed that most married people who have sex in the dream, don’t have peaceful marriages? These spirit spouses won’t let their human victims enjoy their marriages because they are jealous!. They also make it very difficult for the unmarried ones to settle down in marriage. 

IF YOU DESIRE TO STOP HAVING SEX IN THE DREAM, PRAY THESE PRAYERS: 

  1. LORD JESUS, PLEASE SEPARATE ME FROM EVERY SPIRIT SPOUSE. (10 minutes)
  1. EVERY EVIL COVENANT BETWEEN ME AND SPIRIT HUSBAND OR WIFE BE  DESTROYED BY THE BLOOD OF JESUS (10 min).
  1. FIRE OF GOD, POSSES MY SPIRIT MAN AND TURN MY DREAMS INTO FIRE. (10 min).
  1. LET THE BLOOD OF JESUS FLUSH OUT EVERY SATANIC DEPOSITS IN MY BODY IN THE NAME OF JESUS, AMEN (10 min).
  1. Observe your covenant time, that’s where the real deliverance will take place. You can read more on Covenant time here. https://godlyseeds.com/2022/01/12/how-to-have-a-covenant-time-with-god/

If you have not given your life to Jesus, please do so now before engaging in these prayers. Just say below prayers; 

LORD JESUS I ACCEPT YOU AS MY PERSONAL LORD AND SAVIOUR AND I NOW INVITE YOU INTO MY LIFE TO RULE AND DIRECT. PLEASE COME AND TAKE CHARGE OF MY LIFE IN JESUS NAME, AMEN. 

How to have a covenant time with God.

Covenant time means choosing a particular time to always meet with God everyday. It’s called covenant because you must always stick to that particular time and our God is a covenant keeper. He NEVER fails. Once you start your covenant time, His presence comes and dwells with you. 

  1. Choose anytime of the day as your covenant time but not when you may likely be disturbed or distracted. I prefer night time. 
  1. Pray a simple prayer to let God know you’ve chosen a particular time and would love to meet with Him daily. 
  1. Start your covenant time with worship songs or read Psalms 96, 97, 98, 99, 100, etc. These Psalms focus on God and not you. Covenant time is a time of intimacy with God. It’s a time of knowing Him more and letting Him purge and cleanse you.
  1. Spend at least 30 minutes but I’m sure as you get to know Him more, you will want to stay longer with Him. The experience is priceless!. 
  1. Have a bible and a notebook with you to write what God lays in your heart. Also read books on spiritual growth and intimacy with God. 
  1. Don’t ask for material things, focus on becoming more like Jesus. Ask God to cleanse you and make you ready for His return. Seek first His Kingdom and He will give you every other thing you need, even without you asking. 
  1. Please take note of your dreams and write down what God reveals to you. If you don’t understand your dreams, ask the Holy Spirit and He will bring to your mind what the Lord is talking about. 

Thank you for reading to the end. Wishing you success in your spiritual journey. 

Are you married to an unbeliever and you desire to see positive changes in their lives? 

PRAYERS

If your answer to the above is yes, then this write up is for you. I will be listing out some simple but profound prayers for you to pray for your spouse daily, in order to see remarkable and positive changes in their lives. 

Please note, we can not determine when and how an unbeliever will get saved, that is the work of the Holy Spirit. I am only here to help you live in peace and harmony with your spouse, pending when he or she gets saved.

PRAYER  POINTS 

  1. FIRE OF GOD POSSES MY SPOUSE. (Please pray for 15 minutes).

The Bible says our God is a consuming fire, so when the fire of God comes into your spouse’s life, everything that is not of God is destroyed. 

  1. HOLY SPIRIT DIVINE, FILL MY SPOUSE.  (Please pray for 15 minutes).

Nobody knows the heart of a man expect the Spirit of God. When you ask the Holy Spirit to fill your spouse, you are asking God to take charge of his or her soul. When this happens, evil characters gradually fade away. 

  1. I PLUG MY HUSBAND’S OR WIFE’S DESTINY INTO THE SOCKET OF THE HOLY GHOST.  (Please pray for 15 minutes).

When your spouse is connected to the Holy Ghost, automatically he or she begins to receive divine revelations or directives from the Throne room of God.

Finally, shower them with love and affection. Ask God for grace to live happily with your spouse no matter their religious stands. 

How to overcome difficult situations.

We are faced with problems on a daily basis, it’s part of life. As long as you are alive, there will always be one issue or the other to sort out. We encounter challenges as we progress in life, they are not meant to stagnate us but to sharpen us and mould us into who Christ wants us to be. 

If I had my way, I’d love to live a life devoid of troubles, but without these problems which the Lord helps me to surmount, I won’t be who I am today. They may seem unpleasant, but I know one thing, they will never leave you the same. There is always a lesson or two to learn. 

The essence of writing this is not to encourage us to accept whatever comes our way, rather it’s to make us understand that these problems aren’t meant to accompany us throughout our journey here on earth. They are meant to work out something good in our lives before they exit, like perseverance, faith, trust and hope in God.

Problems that linger too long in a man’s life need a more defined approach on how to tackle it, hence the need to write this piece. Some people have lived in abject poverty from childhood to adulthood, I don’t think this is how God wants it. We are only meant to experience a season of financial hardship, sometimes to teach us how to be financially prudent or how to endure in times of lack. 

Some have been bedridden for years, some lack joy in their lives, nothing good stays with them for long, some have remained in a particular level in life without any progress, their lives have been stagnated by satanic powers and many more unpleasant situations which I can’t list them all here. 

When you find yourself in a situation like this, what do you do? What measures do you take to solve these difficult problems in your life? Or have you accepted it as God’s plan for your life? Please don’t. Enquire from the Lord first before you settle down with such notion. Even Job in the bible didn’t have to live his entire life in that unpleasant situation, it was just a trial of faith which lasted for a period of time and after that, he was back to his feet. When will you be back on your feet? Are you ready to start the process of recovering all that the devil has stolen from your life? Then buckle up and apply the below steps. 

  1. GIVE YOUR LIFE TO JESUS

This is the first and most important step to solving difficult situations in your life. Why? He is the Custodian of the whole world and all power belongs to Him. Nothing happens without His knowledge. He knows the very problem that has been lingering in your life and the solution lies in His hands. Therefore, the sure way to victory over difficult situations, is to start with Jesus. If you desire to surrender your life to Jesus, please say this prayer: 

LORD JESUS I ACCEPT YOU AS MY PERSONAL LORD AND SAVIOUR AND I NOW INVITE YOU INTO MY LIFE TO RULE AND DIRECT. PLEASE COME AND TAKE CHARGE OF MY LIFE IN JESUS NAME, AMEN. 

After saying this prayer, you are now officially a Child of God and can approach the Throne room of God for divine intervention over your matter. 

  1. AVOID SIN

Sin is the only thing that separates us from God and I’m pretty sure you wouldn’t want to be disconnected from your source of power. Stay away from sin as much as you can, though occasionally you may falter, but don’t make a habit of it. Once you sin, ask God for forgiveness and maintain a clean slate, so Satan the accuser will have nothing against you. Moreover, your righteousness is of God, so He will give you the grace to live a holy and righteous life. 

  1. ENQUIRE FROM THE LORD.

Now that you have access to God, through His Son Jesus Christ, I encourage you to engage Him in conversations (through prayers) to know why you are passing through this situation in your life. It is necessary to do this to ascertain if the Lord has permitted this difficult situation in your life  to bring forth a greater you. Every difficult situation the Lord permits, is to achieve a purpose in your life. God does not hate you, neither does He harbour any evil plans for your life. Trust Him and hang in there. Pray for grace to wait patiently for His appointed time. If you don’t know how to enquire from the Lord, please read this book, I believe it will aid you. https://godlyseeds.com/2022/02/06/how-to-hear-god-for-yourself/

  1. TIME FOR BATTLE

Having enquired from the Lord and He gives you the understanding that this has nothing to do with God but it’s a demonic attack, then time to rise and fight has arrived. Understand that God is going to fight for you, but have the mindset of enough is enough. Determine to see the end of that problem and set your mind on victory, because Jesus is involved. Matthew 28:18 says: 

“And Jesus came and spoke unto them, saying, All power is given unto me in heaven and on earth”.

Since this is warfare time, please engage in the following while you wait for the salvation of our God. 

  1. Dedicate at least an hour to stay in God’s presence daily. The more you spend time with God, the more power He infuses into your life. A time will come when you will become a terror to the kingdom of darkness. Your name will now be synonymous with trouble to your oppressors. 
  1. Use your time wisely. Every idle time should be mopped up for God. You now belong to God, your priority should be how to live a life that  pleases God. The book of Proverbs says “When a man’s ways please the LORD, he makes even his enemies to be at peace with him”. Invest your time in the things of God and stay away from ungodly activities. They will only delay your freedom and victory. Don’t give the enemy  loopholes to hurl more attacks at you.
  1. Engage in warfare prayers, preferably at midnight. Most satanic attacks take place while we sleep. So learn to stay awake at midnight and pray, at least for 30 minutes. If you need warfare prayers, please let me know.
  1. Make Psalms 35, 27 and 18 your friends. Soak yourself in these Psalms daily and believe God will deliver you from that difficult situation. 
  1. Put away the gloomy garment and grab your garment of praise. A sad and sorrowful soul is a fertile ground for more attacks but a joyous soul receives more from the Lord. 
  1. Ask the Lord for dreams and divine revelations. This will help you understand what is really going on in your life and what God is doing to set you free. 
  1. Engage in evangelism. Social media has made it easier now for us to spread the good news, don’t shy away.
  1. Remember to give God thanks when you overcome that difficult situation and also share your testimonies to encourage others. 

     5.  DISCOVER WHO YOU ARE.

Some people are facing difficult situations simply because they are playing out another’s script. You are acting a role God never assigned to you. Some problems disappear as soon as you switch roles and  begin pursuing God’s purpose for your life. Therefore it’s essential we know who we are and why God created us. What’s your assignment here on earth? Have you started acting your God given role? If you are yet to discover who you are and your mission here on earth, then this is the right time to seek God’s face concerning this aspect of your life. 

In conclusion, I encourage Christians to learn how to hear from God, since this is the key to solving many life’s problems. When God speaks to you, it becomes easier to overcome difficult situations because He will guide and direct you on how best to handle those problems. 

Please make up your mind today to be serious in your relationship with God and apply the necessary steps to get closer to Him. You may wish to read more on this, so here is a link to help improve your Christian walk with God. https://godlyseeds.com/2022/02/06/how-to-hear-god-for-yourself/

Domestic violence in marriage; what to do.

It’s sad and unfortunate that some have ended up in marriages where they are abused and maltreated by their spouses. In most cases women are the victims and some have even lost their lives. 

In this chapter, I am going to write from the perspective of a woman because women are most vulnerable in this issue.

It is true that God hates divorce but neither is He in support of abusive marriage. I believe here is when separation is allowed for safety sake. Separation is not divorce, neither is it a time of freedom to practice immorality. It is a time for sober reflection and prayer for divine intervention in your marriage. It is also a time to work on yourself in order to be a better version of you, because we all are a work in progress, we have not yet attained that height of perfection in Christ. The tendency to fall into sin is in us, therefore pray intensely for both you and your spouse, that this time of separation will not be used by the devil to wreck more havoc in your home. 

Spend quality time daily in God’s presence, allow Him purge you, cleanse you and restore you. The pains, tears and emotional trauma can all be healed at the feet of our Lord Jesus Christ. You are not alone in this, He is with you all the way. Certain questions may come to your mind now, like why did God allow all these in the first place? Is He not the Almighty? Why couldn’t He stop it before it got this bad. These are all valid questions which I will use the parable of the wheat and tares to answer. I am not in the position to give you a perfect answer, for that is the work of the Holy Spirit. He teaches us all truth. I will only try to shade some light on why these unpleasant things happen.

The parable of the wheat and tares  found in  Matthew 13:24-30, makes us understand that while men slept the enemy sowed tares in their lifes, in this case I may say marriage. The problem in your marriage isn’t caused by God. The devil is responsible. He sowed tares in your marriage for that is his job;  to steal, kill and destroy and for this reason the bible asks us to watch and pray. Most people don’t pray for their spouses until things go wrong. We are expected to pray without ceasing. Create out time for prayer and be intentional about it. Devote adequate time to prayer as you do with other activities. It should rank as one of your most important jobs on your daily task list. 

In the parable, we notice that the tares were allowed to grow alongside with the wheat until harvest time when they shall be separated. The tares in our lives aren’t meant to destroy us but to work out perfection in us. Some challenges we encounter in marriages are permitted by God in order that we might bear the fruits of the spirit, which are:, love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control –Galatians 5:22-23. So what has bearing the fruits of the spirit got to do with being separated from your spouse? We shall be taking a  look at each of these fruits to see what they signify in the life of a Christian. 

  1. Love: John 15:9-11 (NIV) says “As the Father has loved me, so have I loved you. Now remain in my love. If you keep my commands, you will remain in my love, just as I have kept my Father’s commands and remain in his love. I have told you this so that my joy may be in you and that your joy may be complete.”  This bible verse admonishes us to remain in God’s love, and if you do, then your joy will be complete. No matter what your spouse has done to you, forgive and let go, only then will you be truly happy. You cannot bear a grudge against someone and be truly happy. The thought of that person constantly brings pain to your heart and this will definitely delay your healing and restoration. This is why God’s love must always abound in our hearts, to keep it pure and free from hatred and bitterness. Jesus kept His father’s command and remained in His love, will you also keep the Father’s command? 
  1.  Joy:  James 1:2-3 (NIV)

“Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance”. We are made to understand in this bible portion that a believer’s life is not void of trials, infact, it even says “trials of many kinds”. God permits trials in our lives to work out perseverance. The life of a Christian is not a jolly ride, there are bumps and hudles here and there which we need to be prepared for. The perseverance God is working out in our lives is to ensure that we are prepared for what lies ahead of us as we journey through life on earth. We need to be equipped with the right attributes lest we fall by the wayside. Being separated from your spouse shouldn’t sadden you but rather see it as a thing of joy, because in the midst of this mess, something new and glorious will be birthed. 

  1. Peace:  John 16:33 (NIV)

 “I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.” A time of separation is not the time to lose your cool and become desperate. Jesus Christ has already overcome the world and every problem that lies therein. The problem in your marriage didn’t come as a surprise to God, He is all knowing.  God will save your marriage, keep still and don’t fret. While you wait on God to resolve any issues between you and your spouse, stay in the place of prayer and let the peace that surpasses human understanding guard your heart and mind. 

  1. Patience: Ephesians 4:2 (NIV)

“Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love”. We are called to be patient and bear with one another. Some spouses cannot tolerate the shortcomings of their partner, they nag and nag and make home a miserable place for themselves. We should learn to overlook certain things in our marriages as long as they are not life threatening. When you find a fault in your spouse, your job is to pray for God to give them a new heart and take away those vices in them. No amount of nagging can change anyone, only God can. Be patient with one another and take everything to God in prayer. 

  1. Kindness: Romans 4:2 (NIV)

“Don’t you see how wonderfully kind, tolerant, and patient God is with you? Does this mean nothing to you? Can’t you see that his kindness is intended to turn you from your sin? ” There is no perfect human being on earth, all have sinned and come short of the glory of God. Despite our sins, God has not abandoned us neither has He given up on us. With God, there is always room for repentance and reconciliation. Ask yourself, have you created room in your heart for repentance and reconciliation with your spouse? Some women see separation from their spouse as a time to get even with their erring husbands, while some have vowed never to let their spouses back into their lives. From the standpoint of the Bible, these are all wrong mindsets orchestrated by the flesh and not the Holy Spirit. Having these mindsets will not allow the purpose of God to be fulfilled in your marriage or life. 

God has been kind to you by continually forgiving your sins, why can’t you do same for your spouse? Forgiving your spouse may seem such an impossible task, yes I totally agree but that’s why we have the Holy Spirit, our Helper. Ask Him to fill you with the fruits of the spirit and to enable you show kindness towards your spouse. 

  1. Goodness: 2 Thessalonians 1:11 (NIV)

“With this in mind, we constantly pray for you, that our God may make you worthy of his calling, and that by his power he may bring to fruition your every desire for goodness and your every deed prompted by faith”.

Being good and desiring what is good is one of the fruits of the spirit. As the name implies, it simply means to be good. We know the qualities of a good person, we don’t need to list them out here. Naturally, a good person is a nice kind hearted fellow, always thinking good of others and does not desire evil to befall others. As a Christian who has been separated from your spouse, God expects you to keep being your good self. Don’t stop doing the good you’ve been known to be doing. Allow the Holy Spirit to flood your heart with beautiful ways of living a good and impactful life. 

  1. Faithfulness: 1 Corinthians 10:13 (NIV)

“God is faithful, who will not allow you to be tempted above what you are able, but will with the temptation also make the way of escape, that you may be able to endure it”. 

Some may wonder, what if I stay separated from my spouse for years, how possible is it for me to stay faithful to him? Well, it’s not an easy place for anyone to find herself and it’s definitely a trying time. 

There are certain things that are humanly impossible for us to accomplish without the help of the Holy Spirit. He is the force that powers us to achieve the impossible. Staying faithful to your spouse no matter the duration of separation is tenable, but you must rely on the Holy Spirit to help you overcome the temptations that may arise. 

Another question that may come up at a time like this is, why should I stay faithful while my husband cheats on me? First and foremost, your body is not yours. It belongs to God. You are to please God with it and not man. Your primary role here on earth is to obey God and do His will and the bible has made us to understand that having intimate relationship with anyone other than your spouse is a sin. My question to you is this, will you obey God and keep yourself pure or will you emulate your spouse and sin against God? 

  1. Gentleness: Matthew 11:29 (NIV)

“Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls”. Jesus Christ encourages us to be like Him, to live the kind of life He lived here on earth. He was gentle, kind and compassionate. These attributes should be found in us Christians too. We cannot say we are followers of Jesus, yet we live a lifestyle that chases people away from Christ. This bible verse tells us that when you are humble in heart, you will find rest for your soul. Being gentle doesn’t mean you are timid, it simply means that despite your strength and will power, you decide to stay humble/gentle so that the name of Jesus might be glorified. Perhaps, you have the power to pay back your spouse in his own coin but you choose not to, in order that Jesus be  glorified. 

A gentle person is often more organised and coordinated; every Christian wife should ask the Holy Spirit for this fruit of the spirit as it will help you run your home more smoothly. 

Being separated from your spouse doesn’t mean your home will not be restored. God is in the process of doing that and one of the things that will facilitate the speedy reconciliation with your spouse is to allow God to also work on you. When you reunite with your spouse, positive changes should be visible in you. Please don’t go back the same way you left, go back a better you, filled with the fruits of the spirit. This will enable you to overcome every temptation that may arise.

  1. Self-control: 2 Peter 1:5-7 (NIV)

“For this very reason, make every effort to add to your faith goodness; and to goodness, knowledge; and to knowledge, self-control; and to self-control, perseverance; and to perseverance, godliness; and to godliness, mutual affection; and to mutual affection, love”.

Any person without self-control is an undisciplined person. To run a successful marriage, we need self-control and discipline. It takes self-control to overcome certain trials and temptations that come your way. There should be a boundary to what and who you allow in your home. Not everyone is welcomed in your home and certainly not every advice given should be taken. Some marriages have crashed simply because of bad advice from friends, colleagues etc. Set a standard for yourself and your home based on the leading of the Holy Spirit. Learn to use your time wisely and curtail time spent on frivolous things. 

Learn to control your tongue, it is a tiny piece in our body but very destructive if not tamed and put under control.  Many have used their tongues to ruin their homes. Don’t let your emotions control you but the Holy Spirit. Have self-control over your spending habits. You are a helper in every ramifications, including his finances. Try to manage the home front properly to avoid wastage.

Watch what you eat too. Let moderation be the key word. You need to stay healthy and finish well, so don’t let lack of self-control cost you your health and long life. 

These fruits of the spirit should be cultivated during the period of separation and of course at any point in time in the life of a Christian. When you accept the period of separation as a time of trial through which God will work out perfection in you, then the less likely you will feel abandoned and dejected. God is all knowing and He is also the Impossibility Specialist who can turn even the most difficult and unpleasant situation around for our good. Always trust Him.