How impactful is your life?

How many lives have you impacted positively so far? What do you use your time and resources for? Taking care of yourself and perhaps your family? That’s not bad, though I believe you could do better.

Try reaching out to people you’ve not heard from for a long time. It won’t cost you much, but the effect will be longlasting.

Some people fall into depression because they fill abandoned and unloved. The society we live in today has made many people self centred and selfish. No one cares any more, it’s all about me and my comfort.

Please leave your comfort zone and reach out to a few people. The world needs you. Make your life impactful by being available to those who need you. Don’t shut yourself away, please. We need your time and energy, use it wisely. Don’t waste it on things that won’t yield eternal dividends.

By the way, have you given your life to Jesus? You can do more if you have Jesus. Please say this simple prayer below to accept Him into your life.

“Dear Jesus, I invite you into my life today as my personal Lord and Saviour. Please come and take control of my life, in Jesus name, Amen.

Why are you here on earth?

How many of us know our purpose or calling here on earth? In other words, why did God create you? What’s your mandate here on earth? Have you discovered it yet? What are you doing to fulfill that purpose? Have you been called to be a worshipper, intercessor, evangelist, teacher, etc? It’s pertinent that we consciously work each day to fulfill that purpose or calling. The clock is ticking, and we shall give account of how we used the talents God gave us.

If you’re yet to discover why God created you, please find time to enquire from the Lord. Don’t live your life aimlessly.

Join my discipleship class. (It’s free).

Hello friends,

If you are interested in improving your spiritual life and relationship with God, then feel free to join my watsapp discipleship group. The link is below:

https://chat.whatsapp.com/CjGkz0itzyNEKi6dC2Xtxx

Marriage Course (Day 6)

Day 6

HOW TO HEAR FROM GOD 

Today is the last day of this marriage course and we’re going to learn how to hear from God. If you take into practice what you’ll be taught today, your Christian life will receive a major boost. 

Hearing from God is an asset every Christian should strive to acquire. This will help you build a more intimate relationship with God. The closer you are to God, the more He reveals Himself to you, and of course His plans and secrets will be made known to you too.

Decision making will be a lot easier because you will allow God lead you and His revelations and insights into matters will enable you make the right choice. 

On several occasions, people have approached me with interesting business opportunities and investments, but when I present them before the Lord for clarification, they often come out negative. So, I don’t delve into such businesses. At times, I feel God is being too strict. Why won’t He just let me invest and make more money? Well, God’s ways are not our ways. He can see the end of that business from the beginning, whereas you are limited to only the present. 

Taking decisions concerning your life, marriage, career, etc becomes much easier because you can now hear from God. Decisions taken based on God’s directive is a sure way to success. 

I encourage all of us to take these teachings seriously and please engage in the practical aspect of it too. Learning without practicing what you’ve been taught is non beneficial. 

Attached below is the link.

How to hear from God .

Marriage Course (Day 5)

Day 5

IN MARRIAGE, YOU STOOP TO CONQUER.

Humility plays a major role in making your marriage successful. You need to stay humble and forget your pride/ego. Afterall, the bible says God hates pride. 

Traditionally, there are roles assigned to the husbands in marriage, likewise the wives. Some forget that this is not a standard to adhere to doggedly. It’s just to help run the home smoothly. 

Some men believe cooking, washing dishes, doing laundry, changing babies diapers, etc are jobs meant for wives, therefore they refuse to share in these responsibilities no matter how stressed up their wives may be. 

On the other hand, some women believe mowing the lawn, taking the vehicle to the mechanic for servicing, taking out the trash, footing the bills, etc are roles meant for husbands in marriage. 

This position has brought a lot of havoc to the marriage institution. It is true there are certain roles meant for husbands, like providing for his family. What happens in the case where the husband is going through some financial challenges? Can’t the wife pick up this role, at least temporarily, pending when her spouse will be back on his feet? The case of being taken for granted is usually the fear restraining most women from helping out at a time like this. This should not be so. There should be no fear in marriage, rather trust. If you won’t do it for your spouse, do it for the love of God, for peace sake, for unity sake. Prayerfully take up this role for the time being, while interceding that God will speedily restore your husband’s finances, so he can once again resume his responsibilities. 

How about men who won’t cook or do other similar things related to a wife’s role in  the marriage? Doing these things doesn’t make you less of a man nor does it take your headship of the home away from you. 

If you truly love each other, then there’s no big deal in stooping to take up one another’s role in time of trials or need. Everything is centered on love not our ego. No role is superior to the other, nor is there any role in marriage that is demeaning. 

In marriage, do yourself this favour, don’t attach so much importance to your pride or ego.  Don’t let the fear of “what will people say” when they see me doing these things in my marriage deter you from doing the right things. Do all to the glory of God and He who sees our hearts shall reward our efforts and make our marriages successful. 

PRAYERS FOR TODAY

  1. My Father, please give me the grace to live a humble life.
  1. Please Lord, don’t let me feel superior to my spouse or look down on him/her. 
  1. In this marriage, Father Lord, please help us to appreciate each other’s effort in Jesus name, Amen. 
  1. All the factors and weeds constituting problems in my marriage, be totally eradicated in Jesus name, Amen. 

Please note that each prayer should be prayed for at least 15 minutes. If you desire to pray more than that, that’s ok.

Marriage Course (Day 4)

Day 4

INVITING GOD INTO YOUR HOME. 

Jesus replied, Anyone who loves me will obey my teaching. My Father will love them, and we will come to them and make our home with them. (John 14:23). 

From the above bible verse, we are told that God is willing to come and dwell in our homes and you know what to expect when this happens. The ambience of your home will certainly change. 

Remember how Jesus calmed the storm at the sea? The storm was so fierce, the disciples feared the boat would capsize. This is the same way Jesus will calm the storm in your marriage, if you let Him in. 

How do you invite God into your home? You need to create time for God. Dedicate a particular time of the day for Him, and ensure to always make yourself available at that time. It is called a covenant time with God. 

Follow the link below to read extensively on it. 

How to have a covenant time with God.

PRAYERS FOR TODAY

  1. Almighty God, please give me the grace to start and also keep to my covenant time with you in Jesus name, Amen. 
  1. Fire of God poses my marriage and turn it into your fire.
  1. Let my marriage become too hot for the enemy to manipulate.
  1. Father, please arise and fight for my marriage.

Please note that each prayer should be prayed for at least 15 minutes. If you desire to pray more than that, that’s ok. 

Marriage Course (Day 3)

Day 3

ENJOYING YOUR MARRIAGE 

Why did God institute marriage? For companionship and procreation. Marriage was not meant for you to endure but to enjoy. Spending time with your spouse is supposed to bring you joy, not sorrow. If you’re not finding joy in your marriage, then that marriage is faulty and you need God to help you fix it. 

You cannot fix your spouse, only God can do that. If you keep correcting and complaining, you’ll soon earn the title of a nag. So let God do it. 

Below tips will help you enjoy your marriage despite the challenges you may be facing now;

  1. Involve God: Prayerfully involve God in what is happening in your marriage. Tell God you’ve handed over your spouse and marriage to Him. He should help you fix it, so you can start enjoying your home. 
  1. Forgiveness: Please forgive your spouse, even if he/she hasn’t apologised for their wrongdoings. Jesus died for us while we were still sinners. He didn’t wait for us to repent before coming to die for us. He died even when we didn’t apologise for our sins. Kindly do same for your spouse today and enjoy peace of mind. Keep forgiving whenever any offence comes up. 
  1. Love unconditionally: The Bible teaches us to love our enemies, then how much more our spouses? Make up your mind to love your spouse despite he/she shortcomings. Tell yourself that you are prepared to forgive any sin he may commit in future because that’s exactly what Jesus has done for you too. Even the sins you are yet to commit, have already been forgiven since 2000 years ago. 
  1. Don’t expect appreciation

It’s very disheartening when you put in your best to do something and no one seems to appreciate it. Sometimes your spouse does it on purpose. He or she pretends not to see the neatly arranged parlour or the beautifully made bedroom. How about that special dinner you just fixed? All goes unnoticed. Very painful indeed. Be consoled by this word of God, which says : 

Colossians 3:23-24 (KJV) 

And whatsoever ye do, do it heartily, as to the Lord, and not unto men;

Knowing that of the Lord ye shall receive the reward of the inheritance: for ye serve the Lord Christ.

Never do anything expecting a thank you from your spouse. Do all unto God, for He is your rewarder. He alone can pay you back for the love, time and energy invested into building your home. While you tend to the Master’s job (which is being  a good spouse, God will in turn work on your partner,  to bring forth a better version of him or her). 

  1. Ignore certain things. 

Not every matter should be brought forward for discussion. Learn to ignore some things and let God handle it. If you keep pointing out your spouse’s mistakes, you may make him or her feel uncomfortable around you or worse still, you end up sounding like a nag. Just ignore. Always pray for your spouse and believe God is able to resolve any marital problems you may be facing now. 

  1. Communication is vital

We all know the important role Communication plays in making any marriage successful. 

In your marriage, don’t assume. Always clarify things. Pass your message in a timely manner; that is, watch out for his or her mood and be precise.

Try to speak about important issues, so that you’ll always get his or her attention. If you keep speaking on every issue that comes up at home, you’ll soon start sounding boring. Learn to speak to your Heavenly Father on some issues, rather than presenting all to your spouse.

Speak clearly and don’t assume he or she has heard, but chose to ignore you. That may not be the case. Sometimes, when I have a very important issue to tell my spouse, I send a message to his phone. It may be a bit lengthy but unambiguous. I don’t do this often, so when he receives such messages, he considers it important and takes time to read it, so no information is lost.

  1. Touch your spouse 

Touch is another way of communicating with your spouse. Sometimes a simple touch on the arm of your spouse as you walk pass him or her could simply mean I care.

Touch has a way of breaking down tension in the home, especially when communication has failed. 

Just a gentle touch on any part of the body and walk away without saying a word. It helps heal the mind and rekindles love. 

  1. Make yourself available 

Most times when couples have unresolved issues, they tend to avoid each other. This makes things more difficult and increases the tension at home. 

It’s rather advisable to make yourself available in case your partner feels like making peace with you. By being available, you make it a bit easier for your spouse to pour out his or her mind to you.

Some feel, staying around their spouse makes them feel like they’re intruding or invading their privacy. I totally understand, so I advise you stay for a brief moment and watch their reaction, then decide whether to stay or leave.

In order not to make it look boring or weird, take a book with you to read or keep yourself busy while being around your spouse. Bear in mind that your spouse may not say anything, that’s totally fine. Your staying around him/her will certainly reduce the tension and open doors to easy communication. 

  1. Bask in God’s presence 

Your marriage is already facing crises right now, so enjoying that marriage will require a determined effort by you to stay positive, calm and happy. Yes, I said happy. You’re wondering how possible it is to stay happy in a marriage that is falling apart. 

It is possible, when you learn to bask in God’s presence. Inviting God into your home and cultivating the habit of spending time with Him, will certainly yield positive vibes in your home. You’ll soon come to the realisation that God is in total control of your life and marriage and nothing can happen without His consent. 

When you spend time with God daily, you are basking in His presence. The more time you spend with God, the more glorious He makes your life, and soon you’ll stop worrying about your marriage because God has got your back. 

  1. Speak calmly and softly 

When your spouse gets upset and starts speaking in a loud or rude manner, stay calm and respond in a soft tone. Your calm soft response has a way of calming the nerves, while a rude sharp response would only feed the anger in him or her. 

Don’t consider yourself a weakling when you act like this. This is the way of the Lord, and it usually brings fantastic results. 

Proverbs 15:1 says; “A soft word turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.”

PRAYERS FOR TODAY

  1. Oh God arise and let your perfect will be done in my life and marriage in Jesus name, Amen. 
  1. My Father in Heaven, please touch the heart of my husband/wife and draw him/her closer to you.
  1. Teach me Lord how to hear from you and show me the path to follow in Jesus name, Amen. 
  1. Dear Lord, please uproot whatever you did not plant in my marriage in Jesus name, Amen. 

Please note that each prayer should be prayed for at least 15 minutes. If you desire to pray more than that, that’s ok.

Marriage Course (Day 2)

Marriage Course

Day 2

Why prayer is important in making your marriage a success. 

What is prayer? Prayer is talking to God. Why do you need to talk to God? You talk to God because He created everything and knows all that is happening in our lives. This world belongs to God. He formed it and He controls it. Nothing happens in this world without His knowledge. Therefore, God is aware of everything happening in your life and marriage. 

If you want to succeed in your marriage, then you definitely need God and the easiest and surest way to reach God is through prayers. 

This marriage course would be incomplete without prayers. That’s why we incorporate prayers into our daily teachings. These prayers are results yielding prayers, so oblige yourself this opportunity and pray well.

I usually encourage you to pray each prayer for at least 15 minutes and you may be wondering why. The reason is because persistence is one of the keys to answered prayers. It demonstrates the seriousness and eagerness of the person praying and this attracts God’s attention. 

Most importantly, Jesus himself applied this method while praying at the Garden of Gethsemane. Please see below scripture:

Matthew 26:44 (KJV)  And he left them, and went away again, and prayed the third time, saying the same words.

This bible passage makes us understand that Jesus prayed the same prayer three times and we know that Jesus spent not less than one hour at Gethsemane praying. Although some bible scholars say he spent three hours praying. 

Matthew 26:40 (KJV)  And he cometh unto the disciples, and findeth them asleep, and saith unto Peter, What, could ye not watch with me one hour?

In conclusion, if Jesus could spend an hour praying the same prayer, then we can safely follow his footsteps by employing this method of prayer. 

You will agree with me that Jesus, being a man of prayer, must have been praying in this manner for quite some time before the Gethsemane experience. So that wasn’t his first time praying for an hour or more. Therefore, we Christians have no excuse whatsoever not to pray intense prayers, especially at difficult moments of our lives. A life or marriage devoid of prayers is bound to crash. 

PRAYERS FOR TODAY

  1. Dear Lord, please strengthen me in the place of prayer.
  1. Oh Lord, please give me the grace to pray without ceasing. 
  1. Let all the factors and weeds constituting problems in my marriage, be totally eradicated in Jesus name, Amen. 
  1. My Father in Heaven, please give me a teachable spirit.

Please note that each prayer should be prayed for at least 15 minutes. If you desire to pray more than that, that’s ok.

Marriage Course. (Day 1)

Marriage course 

DAY 1

There is no marriage that is perfect. That’s just the fact. The secret to enjoying your marriage is knowing how to weather the bad times, because it is during the bad times that couples get fade up and want a way out. So if you know how to weather these bad times, then your marriage will work out fine and you will enjoy a lasting relationship with your spouse. 

FACTORS THAT CAUSE BAD TIMES IN MARRIAGES. 

  1. Finances
  2. Communication breakdown 
  3. Sex
  4. Infidelity 
  5. Distrust 
  6. Childlessness
  7. Distant relationship 
  8. Please add yours to the list….

If you noticed from the list above, I didn’t include lack of love. This is because from day one you loved the man or woman you got married to,  but due to some major differences that have crept into the marriage, you no longer feel that love for your spouse. Now, you’ve come to the conclusion that love no longer exist. No, this is not true. Love is still there, it has gone nowhere. The reason you no longer feel it, is because the unpleasant things in your marriage now outweigh the love you feel for your spouse. 

Therefore, if we successfully weed out these unpleasant things, then the love will sprout back to life. That love is still there in your heart, but you no longer feel it because its been suppressed. 

In this marriage course, one of our cardinal focal point is to weed out those elements that are suppressing love in marriages. 

THE WEEDS IN MARRIAGES 

  1. Anger
  2. Worry 
  3. Anxiety 
  4. Envy
  5. Low self esteem
  6. Lack of appreciation 
  7. Fear
  8. Selfishness or self centred 
  9. Nagging or fault finding 
  10. Please add yours to the list

It is ok to also classify factors that cause bad times in marriages as weeds. Anything that obstructs the growth of a marriage can be termed as a weed. 

PRAYERS FOR TODAY

  1. Father in Heaven, please locate any weed in my marriage and burn them up in the name of Jesus, Amen. 
  1. Any weed assigned to choke up my marriage, be consumed by the fire of God. 
  1. Oh Lord My Father, You are called the consuming fire, please let your fire pass through my marriage and let everything you did not plant be totally destroyed in the mighty name of Jesus, Amen.

Please note that each prayer should be prayed for at least 15 minutes. If you desire to pray more than that, that’s ok.

Tips on how to save your marriage.

Marriage is glorious if you allow God lead. Every tip I will be sharing here is based on Christ the Solid Rock. If your marriage is not based on Jesus Christ, then when the storms of life rage, that marriage may come crumbling down. My prayer for you is that, you will prayerfully submit your marriage to God and ask Him to take charge from henceforth. 

Below are some tips to help save or salvage your marriage. It may not be applicable in all cases but I am convinced that you will definitely find some of these tips useful and workable. 

  1. Honesty. 

Living a life of pretence with your spouse is going to open doors to the enemy to attack your home. The bible tells us that the devil is the father of those who tell lies. If you’re deceitful in your dealings with your spouse, then God is not your father. If God is not your father, who will you turn to in times of trouble? 

Some partners hide their wages from each other. No one knows exactly what the other is earning. There is a problem brewing here. What’s the secrecy all about? Where there is no trust in marriage, there is no future. How can you plan your future with someone you don’t trust? 

If you are consciously hiding vital information from your spouse, please repent. Ask God to give you the grace to be transparent and truthful with your spouse and ask Him to also do same to your partner. 

  1. Finding faults 

Some people are hard to please. No matter what you do, they’ll always find fault. You tidy up the house, they come home and complain you forgot to dust a thing or two. No appreciation whatsoever on the job done, they only complain about the undone ones. You cook a meal, they come home and wonder why you didn’t cook something else, forgetting that they never requested for a particular meal. 

Being married to such a spouse isn’t easy at all, but the bible assures us that we have a Helper and Comforter. He is called the Holy Spirit. He will also strengthen you to do all things. Take for instance my case. I am married to someone with very high standards, whereas I’m more of a carefree type. So it took the help of the Holy Spirit to shape me up. Today, we live peacefully because I know how he prefers things done and I follow that pattern, even though I may have my ways. I submit to his, because this is what pleases the Lord. 

So, the key to succeed in this case, is grace. You need help from above, so go ahead and ask. 

  1. Don’t expect appreciation

It’s very disheartening when you put in your best to do something and no one seems to appreciate it. Sometimes your spouse does it on purpose. He or she pretends not to see the neatly arranged parlour or the beautifully made bedroom. How about that special dinner you just fixed? All goes unnoticed. Very painful indeed. Be consoled by this word of God, which says : 

Colossians 3:23-24 (KJV) 

And whatsoever ye do, do it heartily, as to the Lord, and not unto men;

Knowing that of the Lord ye shall receive the reward of the inheritance: for ye serve the Lord Christ.

Never do anything expecting a thank you from your spouse. Do all unto God, for He is your rewarder. He alone can pay you back for the love, time and energy invested into building your home. While you tend to the Master’s job (which is being  a good homemaker, God will in turn work on your spouse,  to bring forth a better version of him or her). 

  1. Communication is vital

We all know the important role Communication plays in making any marriage successful. 

In your marriage, don’t assume. Always clarify things. Pass your message in a timely manner; that is, watch out for his or her mood and be precise.

Try to speak about important issues, so that you’ll always get his or her attention. If you keep speaking on every issue that comes up at home, you’ll soon start sounding boring. Learn to speak to your Heavenly Father on some issues, rather than presenting all to your spouse.

Speak clearly and don’t assume he or she has heard, but chose to ignore you. That may not be the case. Sometimes, when I have a very important issue to tell my spouse, I send a message to his phone. It may be a bit lengthy but unambiguous. I don’t do this often, so when he receives such messages, he considers it important and takes time to read it, so no information is lost.

  1. Touch your spouse 

Touch is another way of communicating with your spouse. Sometimes a simple touch on the arm of your spouse as you walk pass him or her could simply mean I care.

Touch has a way of breaking down tension in the home, especially when communication has failed. 

Just a gentle touch on any part of the body and walk away without saying a word. It helps heal the mind and rekindles love. 

  1. Ignore certain things. 

Not every matter should be brought forward for discussion. Learn to ignore some things and let God handle it. If you keep pointing out your spouse’s mistakes, you may make him or her feel uncomfortable around you or worse still, you end up sounding like a nag. Just ignore. Always pray for your spouse and believe God is able to resolve any marital problems you may be facing now. 

  1. Keep doing good. 

Doing good to someone who loves you and reciprocates same, does not count much. Whereas, doing good to someone who doesn’t love or appreciate you, is the biblical way. We are admonished to love our enemies, how much more your spouse? 

Love your spouse and keep doing good and trust God to turn things around in your favour. Don’t pay back evil for evil, it won’t yield any beneficial result. 

  1. Learn to forgive

It is easier to forgive someone who hurts you and tenders an apology, but how easy is it to forgive someone who hurts you but doesn’t apologise? Do you resent that person and store up the hurt in your heart? Most likely yes, but that is not the solution. 

The best thing is to forgive even when no apology has been tendered. Just let it go. Yes, it’s not easy but with the help of the Holy Spirit you can always forgive your spouse, even when he or she hasn’t apologised. 

When you do this, you feel good, happy and relaxed. Whereas, resentment and bitterness keep you tensed up, unhappy and it’s not good for your health.

  1. Speak calmly and softly 

When your spouse gets upset and starts speaking in a loud voice, stay calm and respond in a soft tone. Your calm soft response has a way of calming the nerves, while a rude sharp response would only feed the anger in him or her. 

Don’t consider yourself a weakling when you act like this. This is the way of the Lord, and it usually brings fantastic results. 

Proverbs 15:1 says; “A soft word turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.”

  1. Involve God 

If you want to succeed in your marriage, then Involve God. He is the solution provider and your guide. He will teach you all things and lead you to the truth you need to know about your spouse, marriage, career, etc. God is all knowing and He is willing to share what He knows with you, if you will let Him.

In times of trouble, stay calm and talk to Him like you would with a friend. He is listening and will surely arise for you.